Moving to a new city for a career pursuit, attending college, or simply a fresh start is an affair that takes a lot of pre-planning. It can be daunting, to begin with, especially if you’re not a socialized creature in your hometown. It can make even the most extroverted individuals a little apprehensive, and that’s the correct response to have!
Confronting the unknown is an emotion with which humanity has had to grapple with since we became sentient. It wouldn’t be natural for you to not be worried. But you needn’t be fearful.
Depending on your personality type, and depending on your extroversion or introversion, you could have an easier or harder time to make sense of your new surroundings that someone else in your situation. No matter how easy it is you find talking to people, there are tried and true methods that can help you become more confident in your skin and willing to take on all of the challenges and adventures moving to a new location will throw at you.
Take Care Of Your Mental Health
In order to feel social, you have to want to be social. Read, learn, start talking to people in your immediate environment, and read books about coming across genially. Avoid overusing social media. As a general rule, everyone is insecure to a degree, and most people aren’t bad people. A polite opening of discourse is always a great way to start because people like being spoken to respectfully and listened to. Make this your mission, and don’t worry about if you don’t gel together. It happens all the time.
Upgrade Your Fashion Sense
If you look good, you’ll feel good. You’ve probably read and heard this a million times in your life, but no, it’s not a marketing ploy. Wearing fresh new threads will help you feel updated, current in the times, and worthy of looking at with respect. If you’re not happy with your figure, work on it. You shouldn’t feel the only way to be happy around people is by working yourself to death at the gym, but light exercise will help you fill your clothes out better and the mere effort alone will give you an inner sense of respect that will shine from your very being.
If you’re not sure what sort of clothes will work for you, just consider what you like seeing other people where. If you’re a guy, do you have an affinity for beards, plaid shirts, and stonewashed jeans? It’s easy to base your look around that in that case. There’s always a way to update your style, and don’t be afraid to make mistakes. If you’d like to really pinpoint what would work for you, hire a personal stylist to remake your look, but be sure you let them know your personality because wearing clothes that don’t suit who you are will only serve to have the opposite intended effect.
Attend The Right Venues
No matter who you are, you’ll have a hobby. No matter what hobby you have, you’ll be able to discuss and share that with other people. Attend groups in your community if you’re into reading groups or literary circles. Go to clubs or get on the Paper guestlist if you enjoy the VIP experience. This will also help woo a date once you become a social butterfly.
Assess Your Clique
Who do you like to hang around with? Who makes you feel wanted? This should be a two-way exchange. Becoming social demands you put the effort in, but it also warrants friendly responses from others at the same time. Don’t hide your head in the sand, be friendly, and you’re sure to gather a positive group.
When you have your solid friendship circle, be that through work, social hobbies or meeting interesting people in VIP bars, you’re sure to question why you were worried in the first place. Be sure to have fun!